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When I was growing up my problems were always with other people. Why didn't my friends invite me to the cul-de-sac to play basketball or why did my parents pick me up 10 minutes late from practice? As I grew up and went to middle/high school my problems transformed into words that I couldn't shake. In school I was always asked, "why are your ears so big?" or "why are you so short?". Small things like that really bothered me and sometimes they still do. I thought that when I was done with school that the words would stop. They didn’t. When you grow up there will still be people in your life who will talk down on you. Currently, the words now are, "You didn't finish college? You won’t be successful." or "I got a real job why haven't you?". Yes, I do hear these words from other people.

Growing up you were always given solutions to the problems you had with other people. For example, whenever I had a problem I would come home and tell my parents all about them. They would usually tell me to ignore whoever was saying these things and I would. Since school, I have learned other ways to deal with people’s words and actions. I’ve practiced writing or forgiving instead of storing my feelings away. As I grow older though, I’m starting to realize that there is another problem. I always believed that it was me vs the world. I was wrong. Other people aren’t the problem anymore. What’s standing in my way now, is myself. It's me vs me and growing up most of us weren't taught on how to deal with this kind of problem.

We might not be able to control other people’s thoughts or actions; however, we can control our own with practice. Self-doubt is very dangerous. The second you start to believe what others say your mind will start to repeatedly have this thought until you give it up. Your mind is powerful so feed it positive thoughts instead of negative ones. Have you ever found yourself questioning your potential? What if I fail? I can’t do that. There is no way. I’ll never be good enough. I’m sure we all have. If you do this, you have already convinced yourself you aren’t even going to try. So, instead of focusing on these thoughts recognize that the self-doubt is being created. Then try focusing on the dream or desire and create a plan. Without a plan how will you stay calm under all the pressure? After that, break the plan down. Take the first step and watch your other foot follow. Self-doubt can be beaten; the question is are you willing to take the time to train and test yourself every single day? More information in my developmental growth book, soon to come.

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Life is hard. We’re all in the same game; just different levels. Everyone has, will, or is currently going through a major struggle in their life. This struggle could be as hard as the death of a loved one, hunger, abuse, or maybe sickness. Maybe the struggle isn’t that intense; however, it doesn’t mean that it isn’t difficult to overcome. Everyone is on a different level dealing with their struggle, so don’t be too quick to judge another person. There are so many different levels and it doesn’t matter which one you’re battling. What matters is that you understand how to deal with them even when you want to give up.

No matter how hard it is, try to stay positive and find a way to release your emotions in a non-harmful way. No matter who you are or what it may be, just have faith that someday the dots will connect. When you experience one of those difficult levels you will probably hear people give you advice all the time. They usually tell you that time will heal everything or to have faith like I said previously. It sounds like bulls**t, at the time but it’s true. They usually advice you because they remember going through a similar struggle in their life.

The hardest thing during these times is not having the answers to your questions. Why did this happen? What was going through their mind? What if I don’t get better? That’s why you must believe in a higher power, or you’ll drive yourself into a pit of negativity. It doesn’t matter what higher power you believe in. Have faith in something or you’ll continue to have that feeling of despair shadow over you every day. Having a destructive mindset is the easiest thing to turn to during these times. Challenge yourself to find a healthy habit to release the anger instead of physically or mentally hurting yourself or others. One example I picked up is writing, just letting all my emotions out on paper. So, the next time you’re going through a rough patch and want to hear for the one millionth time, to give it time or have faith. You’re always welcome to come back here to read this again.

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It's May 9th, 2019 and when I woke up this morning the first thought that came to my mind was, I got a lot to do today. I needed to shower, eat breakfast, post on my social media, reach out to more followers, and stretch out my back (I recently injured it doing yoga/basketball yes I know very funny) all before work. After I get off my 9-5 I need to get paint and drop it off at one my properties so it can be touched up and finished. I needed to research potential business opportunities and brainstorm on logos. Along with all that is a whole other list of things that I think I have to do. Once it started it just kept going like a snowball effect.

So, I just wanted to remind everyone to take their days one step at a time. If you're overwhelmed with everything you have to do then try writing the tasks down. Sometimes when you write them out you might realize that it wasn't as bad as you were making it. I believe that most of our stress is built because we like to create lists in our heads. We then become scared of the thought that we might forget one throughout the day. We like to believe that we can remember everything and often most times we do. The thing is, we don't realize how much this stress weighs down on us though. So, whenever you start to feel stressed out like I did this morning start a habit of writing it down. Watch your mind start to ease as you're reading the notes. Whether you're busy or not. It is always helpful to take time out of everyday to think clearly.

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No one knows how long they have on this Earth. Time is your most valuable resource. Take a step back to see how you spend your time and if that's really the best way to utilize that precious time. Are you spending most of your time on electronics or maybe it's working for money to buy materialistic things? Time is impossible to get back. So conquer the day however you choose to, but keep that thought in mind. I'm going to take this day to do something different. I'm not sure if it's because we think saying it will make us any less of a man or something. All I know is we don't say it much, but I love you dad and I'll see you after I get off work, until then Happy Birthday.

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I work a 9-5 so that I don't have to work a 9-5

5/3/2019

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It's May 3rd, 2019 and I work a legit 9-5. Before this job I worked at the restaurant and the hours were 10-10. That's what I grew up knowing, so I didn't understand why there were so many 9-5 quotes or what they meant. I finally looked up the meaning and now I understand all the 9-5 quotes. I even hear others quote it all the time. They state, "oh just living the dream and working that 9-5". It basically just refers to a normal or routine job. A job that is boring and unfulfilling, but people work it to receive a paycheck. I'm not saying my job is boring. I mean I do the same things everyday, but what I keep in my head is the difference. What I do with every paycheck is the difference. With each paycheck I know I'm steps closer to my goal of financial freedom. That's what keeps things exciting. Who doesn't like achieving their goals?

A 9-5 isn't terrible like everyone says they are, it's what you do after your 9-5 that will determine if you stay there or not. I know there are some of us out there that have no clue what we want though. We don't know what kind of business to open or how to even get a loan to start one. We don't know how to make investments or passive income. I'm not making excuses for anyone, I just want others to start thinking about what they want. Don't become comfortable with a life, that won't keep your dreams and options alive. It's overwhelming. You have bills, rent, and a child. I might not be you, but I know how powerful a dream can be and you'd be surprised of what you can do to try and reach it.

So, take a breath, as long has you have a plan/goal then you can endure much more than you think. Now, when I say "I work a 9-5 so that I don't have to work a 9-5" the first thing that should come to mind is your plan and how you will execute it to get out of the 9-5 game. You have something to prove to yourself and others around you, so show them with results. For more details/tips on how to achieve your best potential stay updated for my first book.

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